My true story..

[Seashell]

I have always and will always face anyone abusing or hitting their children and if i ever see a mother hitting her child in the street i am the first person to go an confront her or whoever is responsible.
A few years back, i had a neighbour opposite my front door who used to be friendly with us till one day i noticed his step daughter crying on the staircase in my building, she was about 6 years old and i did try to ask her if she was ok and if she ever needed a friend that she could come to me..
it was my daughters birthday and i invited the girl along with other children and she was so clingy with my husband that i felt she really was in need of comfort.
One day i heard bloodcurling screams coming from her home, at first we thought that maybe she was arguing with her mom, fact is that whenever her mom went to work she was left alone with her stepdad...
one weekend they locked her at home to go away and she was told not to go out, i told her to yell for me if i was needed, by this time i already approached the social services and told them what was happening, as the weeks went bye i would hear the most awfull screams till one day i marched over and banged with my fists on the front door and her mom answered..
she said that her daughter was misbehaving..
i reported this AGAIN to the damned authorities!!! :cuss:
one weekend i heard bloodcurling screams, i rang the help a child number no one bloody answered!
monday morning, i went to the school she and my little daughter were going to and i went straight to the Headmaster, he told me that the teachers were concerned about her being an abused child due to her behaviour.
I told him for gods sake DO SOMETHING!!
to cut a long story short, my daughter has seen this girl recently, she is now 20 years old and she is living with her grandmother and even thought her mom asked her to LIE to the authorities she has admitted she no longer speaks to her mom or stepdad and that the evil monster WAS ABUSING HER :flamemad:
she said he used to walk into the bathroom and stare at her and i really dont care to say anymore as even though i did what i could, i feel so sad that she has been through the hell she went through and the bloody authorities didnt do enough!!
They sold up and moved away since the social services visited them.
I have learnt since then that her mother has given birth to a daughter.

I cant bear to think of what that monster might do to the baby.
I was told by the childs aunties and relatives that they were upset and were going to sue the person who denounced the creep..
ha! if only they knew that the girl is an abuse victim and i was the very person to try to help her and her own family let her down.
She has been a rebel and they had to put her in a reform school due to her bad behaviour, i wonder why eh?
gnite.

[wind149]

Shelli, My heart aches for that girl and your compassion for the child comes through loud and clear even years later. Do you know in some states the children have until they are 40 to come forward? It used to be on their 18th birthday the statute of limitations would expire and they were left with no recourse. Now I can't tell you all of why I know this to be true tonight as I have to leave shortly, but the laws have changed for the simple fact so many kids never report it for years, often have issues with relationships, at risk for being substance abusers as they try to block the pain that never goes away and end up in therapy after suicide attempts. Case in point would be your girl. If you want to help her now and you do, check with your state, call your local prosecutor's office often, they have advocates for crime victims and believe you me when I post as to why this works you will understand where I am coming from on this. In the event, your state has no limitations, and she has no contact with the losers ,then she could come forward and press charges against the scuzz and the argument besides her own hellish story would be they have another daughter and you and this girl fear for the child. In my case helping another child, we nailed the scumbag dead to rights and he was a cop!! So many, many, kids, wait years to report it as they are scared, feel no one will believe them , he has threatened to kill them or their mother, it is our little secret, to all Daddies do this to their little girls. This POS here, needs to be locked up NOW!! He will harm the other child if he already hasn't and the mother clearly is in deep denial and sometimes it just galls me these loser women would rather keep a known pedophile around, thinking Oh, he won't hurt my kids, or they are so desperate and don't want to be without a man ,they actually let the scumbags go after their kids as were the case on WE network one night. This white trash piece of dog crap allowed her husband to rape her daughter for a birthday present and continued with Mama pitching in till the girl told somebody. Both of these dirtbags went to jail and the child, who is now 21 told her side and it broke me in two. I think there is hope for your girl and please let me know what you need, I can pull a few rabbits every now and then. Peace Sister.

[Seashell]

Thanks for supporting message, A is now considered an adult, she has issues greeting me, you see she in a way was brainwasehd against me due to her mother telling crap lies, A has since admitted she knows now that it was me that tried to help but somehow A is too shy to see me or regrets the way she cussed at me afterwards, my daughter bumps into her in the street and they catch up telling each other how they ar doing.
My daughter is at uni. she is studying "special needs" and am hoping that when she does see A, she will be able to help and guide her towards legal help.
The school and social services KNOW she is an abuse victim, i hurt real bad and cry for her, i swear i wish i could have done more for her, how many times i want to go to her, hug her and tell her she is safe.
I feel awfull that this went on in front of my doorstep.
p.s her uncle (mothers bro inlaw) is a cop and i recall calling one day and they appeared on my doorstep i begged them that i remain anonymous and that i was worried for the safety of A of course i didnt know at the time it was the little girls uncle!.......

[grasshopper]

Fyi
A Tennessee Law was passed about 10 or so years ago a victim of abuse or sexual abuse can prosecute up 30 years after the incident. You might want to look into State Law in the State it occured for a similar.

There is also an old one 1996 I believe if a vicitm of abuse has to flee the state in order to find a state that will protect them from abuse such as leaving the state of Tenneessee to Georgia who has the toughest laws on the books on abuse it can fall under the ''Women & Childrens Act of 1996 and if convicted carries 99 no parole.

Hope this helps you get some direction and care to you.:seeya:

[Inletwatcher]

Wow shell !!! whooo hooo for you and not just turning up your home stereo louder and ignoring the cries, like so many do. I wish there were more neighbors like you and your beautiful daughter. Kudos to your Momma too, and obviously you have passed this on to your daughter as well. From the bottom of it all, I thank you !
Inlet

[LatrobeGirl]

Shell, I know how it feels to be demonized because you are trying to help a child. A few years ago I drove a school bus, and one morning this little girl came to the bus crying and sobbing, and down the driveway to the house the father was screaming at her as she got on the bus. She was about 7 yrs old. I asked her to sit on the first seat, then as she calmed down I asked what happened. She told me her daddy had given her "the belt" for being bad. At the school, I asked her to stay until the others had gottten off, and asked her where he hit her. "On my back"....and I looked at her back.....covered with bruises. I took her into the school, showed the secretary, and we called DHS. Turns out the parents were meth-heads. After that, I still had to drive down their street and still had to pick up another child just before their house.....the dad began standing out in his driveway every morning, waiting for the bus and glaring at me. Since he wasn't really DOING anything, they couldn't do anything. Their 4 kids had been removed, but the parents were out on bail waiting their court date. Long story short....I moved to another route and once there was a male driver, he quit doing the glare thing. I never got to find out what happened to the children, as I was in an accident shortly after (not in my bus- personal), and having a long recovery, lost track of the case. I hope that the sweet angel from my bus is okay, tho....and her siblings too.

[Seashell]

Wow shell !!! whooo hooo for you and not just turning up your home stereo louder and ignoring the cries, like so many do. I wish there were more neighbors like you and your beautiful daughter. Kudos to your Momma too, and obviously you have passed this on to your daughter as well. From the bottom of it all, I thank you !
Inlet
Thanks and my mum is a strong woman and i have seen her give a mothfull to my neighbour years ago when she asked me as a teen to check on her kids every night when she went out, my mum heard that this woman was a prostitute who worked nights and so mum got hold of the childrens granny and gave her a piece of her mind, from that day onwards those children werent alone at night... :D
If every neighbour bothered to listen when they heard a scream from a child there would be less child murders as well as abuse and i really dont know how anyone can walk away let alone ignore the screams... :mad:

[Seashell]

Shell, I know how it feels to be demonized because you are trying to help a child. A few years ago I drove a school bus, and one morning this little girl came to the bus crying and sobbing, and down the driveway to the house the father was screaming at her as she got on the bus. She was about 7 yrs old. I asked her to sit on the first seat, then as she calmed down I asked what happened. She told me her daddy had given her "the belt" for being bad. At the school, I asked her to stay until the others had gottten off, and asked her where he hit her. "On my back"....and I looked at her back.....covered with bruises. I took her into the school, showed the secretary, and we called DHS. Turns out the parents were meth-heads. After that, I still had to drive down their street and still had to pick up another child just before their house.....the dad began standing out in his driveway every morning, waiting for the bus and glaring at me. Since he wasn't really DOING anything, they couldn't do anything. Their 4 kids had been removed, but the parents were out on bail waiting their court date. Long story short....I moved to another route and once there was a male driver, he quit doing the glare thing. I never got to find out what happened to the children, as I was in an accident shortly after (not in my bus- personal), and having a long recovery, lost track of the case. I hope that the sweet angel from my bus is okay, tho....and her siblings too.

well done girl!
you did a wonderfull act of humanity for those children, if only everyone cared enough out there it would be a safer and better world for these abused children....

for you :rose:

[Athena]

Seashell and Latrobegirl.....

Kudos to you both for wanting and taking action in making a difference in an innocent child's life. The world definitely needs more people like you and I applaud your efforts. :rose:

Another Day Has Dawned
by Kit McCallum

Amidst our chaos and confusion;
Amidst our anguish and despair;
Amidst our never-ending questions and blame;
… Lies a world of lessons.

Through our tears and astonishment;
Through our hopelessness and depression;
Through our anxiety and grief;
… Lies a world of shame.

For it is our world that is responsible;
It is our world that allowed this sadness;
It is our world that has lost its youth;
… And it is our world that needs to change.

It is a warning for those who would isolate it;
It is a warning for those who would bury it;
It is a warning for those who think it will not touch them;
… It is we, who need to address it.

For this is the birth of our own generation;
This is the birth of our own problems;
This is the birth of our own past mistakes;
… It is we, who needed to watch over them.

A new generation who have hopes and dreams;
A new generation who have life and laughter;
A new generation who deserve a chance at peace;
… It is we who need to make them secure.

It is time to stop talking in circles;
It is time to stop blaming and pointing;
It is time to stop questioning and guessing;
… It is time to accept the burden and act.

We are not blameless;
We are not above reproach;
We are not perfect role models;
… For we are the generation they emulate.

Look beyond your own your circle of life;
Look beyond your picket fences and chained doors;
Look beyond your own backyard;
… And admit your frailties and failures.

Did you not once look the other way?
Did you not once stay quiet when you should have spoken?
Did you not once say I cannot change it?
… Do you know that we can make a difference?

One small voice can begin to move mountains;
One caring gesture can begin to enlighten others;
One shoulder to lean on, can ease another’s pain;
… Did you know that you are that one?

Listen to those who are in jeopardy;
Listen to that small voice whispering that they are in trouble;
Listen to that child with the wayward, furtive glance;
… And be prepared to take part in their future.

For if you do not listen and talk;
If you do not participate and take responsibility;
If you do not guide and offer them your heart and wisdom;
… It is we, who will join in their misery.

It reaches beyond your own immediate children;
It reaches beyond their friends and peers;
It reaches beyond your nieces and nephews;
… For it is every child you come in contact with.

Positive action begins in our own backyards;
Positive action flows through your own neighborhood;
Positive action can encompass your own small town or city;
… And through this, we are all connected.

Be a mentor when others fail to counsel;
Be a counselor when others fail to listen;
Be a listener when others fail to notice;
… Be a positive experience with every child you meet.

For yesterday, someone looked the other way;
Yesterday, someone pretended they did not see;
Yesterday, someone passed by without offering help;
… But today, it is not too late.

Today, you can make a difference in someone’s life;
Today, you can offer your love and guidance;
Today, you can choose to be a positive influence for another;
… And then maybe, just maybe, our world will change with you.

[WarmNCozy]

Seashell and Latrobegirl.....

Kudos to you both for wanting and taking action in making a difference in an innocent child's life. The world definitely needs more people like you and I applaud your efforts. :rose:

Another Day Has Dawned
by Kit McCallum

Amidst our chaos and confusion;
Amidst our anguish and despair;
Amidst our never-ending questions and blame;
… Lies a world of lessons.

Through our tears and astonishment;
Through our hopelessness and depression;
Through our anxiety and grief;
… Lies a world of shame.

For it is our world that is responsible;
It is our world that allowed this sadness;
It is our world that has lost its youth;
… And it is our world that needs to change.

It is a warning for those who would isolate it;
It is a warning for those who would bury it;
It is a warning for those who think it will not touch them;
… It is we, who need to address it.

For this is the birth of our own generation;
This is the birth of our own problems;
This is the birth of our own past mistakes;
… It is we, who needed to watch over them.

A new generation who have hopes and dreams;
A new generation who have life and laughter;
A new generation who deserve a chance at peace;
… It is we who need to make them secure.

It is time to stop talking in circles;
It is time to stop blaming and pointing;
It is time to stop questioning and guessing;
… It is time to accept the burden and act.

We are not blameless;
We are not above reproach;
We are not perfect role models;
… For we are the generation they emulate.

Look beyond your own your circle of life;
Look beyond your picket fences and chained doors;
Look beyond your own backyard;
… And admit your frailties and failures.

Did you not once look the other way?
Did you not once stay quiet when you should have spoken?
Did you not once say I cannot change it?
… Do you know that we can make a difference?

One small voice can begin to move mountains;
One caring gesture can begin to enlighten others;
One shoulder to lean on, can ease another’s pain;
… Did you know that you are that one?

Listen to those who are in jeopardy;
Listen to that small voice whispering that they are in trouble;
Listen to that child with the wayward, furtive glance;
… And be prepared to take part in their future.

For if you do not listen and talk;
If you do not participate and take responsibility;
If you do not guide and offer them your heart and wisdom;
… It is we, who will join in their misery.

It reaches beyond your own immediate children;
It reaches beyond their friends and peers;
It reaches beyond your nieces and nephews;
… For it is every child you come in contact with.

Positive action begins in our own backyards;
Positive action flows through your own neighborhood;
Positive action can encompass your own small town or city;
… And through this, we are all connected.

Be a mentor when others fail to counsel;
Be a counselor when others fail to listen;
Be a listener when others fail to notice;
… Be a positive experience with every child you meet.

For yesterday, someone looked the other way;
Yesterday, someone pretended they did not see;
Yesterday, someone passed by without offering help;
… But today, it is not too late.

Today, you can make a difference in someone’s life;
Today, you can offer your love and guidance;
Today, you can choose to be a positive influence for another;
… And then maybe, just maybe, our world will change with you.

I was literally moved to tears by this, Athena! And yes, each of us can make a difference one person at a time!:rose:

[wind149]

Kudos is right for standing up for that little girl. I can't remember all my posts here but I think I posted about some nieighbors I had when I first moved here that were complete scum. At 2 a.m. the police banged on my door and asked me where the little girl he had in his arms lived. She was butt naked and filthy! I pointed out the home and he and another officer banged on the door. I kept little Miranda with me, washed her up best I could, dirt was embedded in the creases, I put a t-**** of my godson on her and gave her a Popsicle. The parents are dragged out of the house, and now of all of sudden Mommy wonders where the kid is and the cops tell her that CPS was on their way and never mind. An older boy lived there as well and the cops found him sleeping on a filthy mattress on the living room floor and the place was over run with cockroaches and filthy beyond anything they had seen. These people had only lived there a few months!!! The lady from CPS came into my house and talked to the girl and then told her that she was going to go to a nice house and the woman assured me and the cops that they were pursuing this case! The kids were taken away and I was getting hate stares and the trash father would call me a ***** and other names, but he screwed himself by slashing my tires and my one neighbor happened to be awake sitting on his dark porch and watched him do it and called the cops. The cops wake me up and it was all I could do not to get arrested myself for what this dirtbag did. I wanted to go punch his lights out but you know I was there in court and I told the judge what he did and the fact his kids were taken and he could not even post a $2,000 bail, SCUMBAG! Blames me because him and scum wife were meth-heads and drunks and got the WELFARE CHECK taken away He was convicted and got sixty days and of course I never saw a dime of money from him, but the park people were decent and paid for me to get new tires. Would I do it again? YOU BET! More people need to get involved and not let the mind-set of fear of retaliation stand in your way. If you don't get involved when you see a child being abused and she ends up dead, how would you feel then? Little Summer Phelps of WA, who was horribly abused and murdered by her scumbag step-mother and father and not one neighbor called the police and after the fact, they all claimed to have heard that child getting beat, punched, her screaming in pain. Apparently, they were all afraid of the wicked step-monster. And what made me puke is after this poor child lays in a morgue, the whole block does one of those lame candle light vigils. Little late people, don't ya think? They are up on first degree and I hope the prosecutor seeks the DP.

[Seashell]

kudos WIND149 ! you are also a brave and compassionate person :rose:
it seems we are breed of people :D

[Seashell]

Seashell and Latrobegirl.....

Kudos to you both for wanting and taking action in making a difference in an innocent child's life. The world definitely needs more people like you and I applaud your efforts. :rose:

Another Day Has Dawned
by Kit McCallum

Amidst our chaos and confusion;
Amidst our anguish and despair;
Amidst our never-ending questions and blame;
… Lies a world of lessons.

Through our tears and astonishment;
Through our hopelessness and depression;
Through our anxiety and grief;
… Lies a world of shame.

For it is our world that is responsible;
It is our world that allowed this sadness;
It is our world that has lost its youth;
… And it is our world that needs to change.

It is a warning for those who would isolate it;
It is a warning for those who would bury it;
It is a warning for those who think it will not touch them;
… It is we, who need to address it.

For this is the birth of our own generation;
This is the birth of our own problems;
This is the birth of our own past mistakes;
… It is we, who needed to watch over them.

A new generation who have hopes and dreams;
A new generation who have life and laughter;
A new generation who deserve a chance at peace;
… It is we who need to make them secure.

It is time to stop talking in circles;
It is time to stop blaming and pointing;
It is time to stop questioning and guessing;
… It is time to accept the burden and act.

We are not blameless;
We are not above reproach;
We are not perfect role models;
… For we are the generation they emulate.

Look beyond your own your circle of life;
Look beyond your picket fences and chained doors;
Look beyond your own backyard;
… And admit your frailties and failures.

Did you not once look the other way?
Did you not once stay quiet when you should have spoken?
Did you not once say I cannot change it?
… Do you know that we can make a difference?

One small voice can begin to move mountains;
One caring gesture can begin to enlighten others;
One shoulder to lean on, can ease another’s pain;
… Did you know that you are that one?

Listen to those who are in jeopardy;
Listen to that small voice whispering that they are in trouble;
Listen to that child with the wayward, furtive glance;
… And be prepared to take part in their future.

For if you do not listen and talk;
If you do not participate and take responsibility;
If you do not guide and offer them your heart and wisdom;
… It is we, who will join in their misery.

It reaches beyond your own immediate children;
It reaches beyond their friends and peers;
It reaches beyond your nieces and nephews;
… For it is every child you come in contact with.

Positive action begins in our own backyards;
Positive action flows through your own neighborhood;
Positive action can encompass your own small town or city;
… And through this, we are all connected.

Be a mentor when others fail to counsel;
Be a counselor when others fail to listen;
Be a listener when others fail to notice;
… Be a positive experience with every child you meet.

For yesterday, someone looked the other way;
Yesterday, someone pretended they did not see;
Yesterday, someone passed by without offering help;
… But today, it is not too late.

Today, you can make a difference in someone’s life;
Today, you can offer your love and guidance;
Today, you can choose to be a positive influence for another;
… And then maybe, just maybe, our world will change with you.

I was moved by what you have shared, thank you as it is so true!
hugs :rose: