Confiding in close friends

[baffled]

First and foremost I offer sympathy for the family in this time of dispair.

From what I"ve read Tara had/has alot of friends; but every woman has a few friends that are a bit closer to our hearts than everyday acquaintances.
Surely there is someone that was Taras' confidant. It's just nature for a woman or a man to have someone that they share everything with. I'm a big part of my best friends life. I know pretty much where she goes , what her routine is like and I know most if not all of her secrets.
I'm sure no one wants to discredit anyone, but I would think Taras ' friends know what place the men mentioned over and over in these posts played in her life. Whether they were friends a love interest or someone she had a fear of. Our best friends are not just someone we share all the happy times with, they help us hold on during the rough times, and encourage us things will get better each day, even if it's only by the width of a penny. I think there is a person that was close to tara that knows what was happening in her life. I'm sure this person will know if it was common for Tara to have late night visitors that she would not hesitate opening her door to even in the early morning hours. This person would know of recent conversations or encounters Tara had with any of these men and what was discussed. It's just a trait among women....... we share the details of our lives. Even when a woman tells a man , don't worry...I"m not gonna tell anyone..... Don't worry..... she's not!!!! No one but her Best Friend. (And I am in no way discrediting Taras morals; just making a point)

[concernedperson]

I don't know of any woman who has one friend that you will tell everything to. We have friend's who are better with dealing in male/female relationships, some with family relationships, some with work relationships and some just like to shop.

Personally, if I needed serious help I would turn to a professional and would recommend the same to a friend. If I thought any information I had could harm others I would keep the scope very narrow and consult with a professional. JMO.

[baffled]

Oh, I agree also with your reply that certain friends have certain qualities.

I was speaking in a more general sense of Taras' everyday life. Someone that has knowledge of her one on one conversations with any of the men mentioned. Your normal girl talk. Such as, if she thought MD had feelings for her other than a friendship, if AV (I"m not sure if those initials are correct , I've only visited this site in the past few days) really was more than just an admirer at one time, did she want to try to work on rebuilding a relationship with MH? as he says she would have liked to. Did she ever get an eerie feeling from the neighbors....

From reading many of the posts; one can see where things seem "normal" or "not so normal" such as a neighbor coming in and straightening things up.. or washing the car? or Why would Tara go to an ex's window to speak with them if they did in fact still have a "friends only" relationship. I would think it would have been fine for her to knock on the door and ask for him (she was in that famlies lives for a number of years, I wouldn't think they would turn her away) or why wouldn't she just call?


Regardless, it is a sad situation. I have a two year old daughter, and it terrifies me when I think of the meaness out in todays world. And even more terrifying is trying to come to a conclusion of who can we really trust anymore.

[bred]

I think I've read close to everything written on TG...so much since Oct. that I have forgotten details, I am sure. But I don't recall ever reading about a BEST friend. I have been a teacher since the early 70's and I have learned something from my young ones. OFTEN(not always)beautiful girls/women actually do not have close girlfriends. There are those who will hang around a beauty in hopes it will rub off(or bring cool guys around)but those friendships don't often last. This is just an observation so don't try to "prove" me wrong...but sometimes beauties could be lonely, and that COULD have been TG.

[concernedperson]

Originally posted by bred
I think I've read close to everything written on TG...so much since Oct. that I have forgotten details, I am sure. But I don't recall ever reading about a BEST friend. I have been a teacher since the early 70's and I have learned something from my young ones. OFTEN(not always)beautiful girls/women actually do not have close girlfriends. There are those who will hang around a beauty in hopes it will rub off(or bring cool guys around)but those friendships don't often last. This is just an observation so don't try to "prove" me wrong...but sometimes beauties could be lonely, and that COULD have been TG.

I agree 100%.

[4ANGELS]

Originally posted by concernedperson


I agree 100%.

Unfortunately thats how it goes I agree too. Harsh world we live in. All of my friends are guys, but I was raised with boys too.

[jela72]

Yours is a very enlightening and very real statement, bred. We've seen, read or heard of some beautiful women who have been utterly hurt and betrayed by so-called 'best-friends' - the basis of that hurt is usually a form of jealousy - or a determination to pull the girl down to 'prove' she's not perfect. In fact, what these 'friends' achieve by doing that - is actually keeping the attention on the beauty.

It's their perception that's skewed not the person God created, lol! Not all the time, but you've got a good point - it happens!

:)



Originally posted by bred
I think I've read close to everything written on TG...so much since Oct. that I have forgotten details, I am sure. But I don't recall ever reading about a BEST friend. I have been a teacher since the early 70's and I have learned something from my young ones. OFTEN(not always)beautiful girls/women actually do not have close girlfriends. There are those who will hang around a beauty in hopes it will rub off(or bring cool guys around)but those friendships don't often last. This is just an observation so don't try to "prove" me wrong...but sometimes beauties could be lonely, and that COULD have been TG.

[Mandymax]

Oftentimes people like to keep private things to themselves, men and women both, especially if it's something they're really struggling with and need to work through before they can voice it to someone else. Everyone has secrets.

[Babes]

Hmmm am wondering where are Tara's female best friends ( if any) .. When laci peterson was missing , her bestfriends came out and speak about laci and what laci told them. I think these bestfriends can enlighten us more on Tara's relationship about HD,MH and AV or anyone else. Maybe Tara has a stalker that she probably mentioned to one of her best friend.

[NancynNC]

Originally posted by Babes
Hmmm am wondering where are Tara's female best friends ( if any) .. When laci peterson was missing , her bestfriends came out and speak about laci and what laci told them. I think these bestfriends can enlighten us more on Tara's relationship about HD,MH and AV or anyone else. Maybe Tara has a stalker that she probably mentioned to one of her best friend.

IMO only, her friends are afraid to talk out about what they may know. I am sure they have talked to investigators. Sure hope they do not feel like the people on the video put out tonight.

What the people said on
the video is a slap in the face to Tara's family. It was like we do not want any outsiders coming in here, we will handle this case.